My name is Andrew and I like sex. Is that embarrassing to admit?  I don’t think so. It’s not like what I’m into is weird or bizarre, and really, what’s considered weird or bizarre today anyway?

I’ve been married for just over fifteen years with two kids, twelve and eight, and a pretty good job in sales. I have an elliptical machine right next to my bed that I’ve never used. I get heartburn when I eat anything spicy, which is everyday. I like video games. I’m into ping pong big time. I like football and NASCAR and I think about sex …maybe ten, twelve times a day. That’s normal, right? I’ve read articles that say some people actually think about sex twenty, thirty even fifty times a day! I hope those people aren’t pilots or surgeons that are fantasizing while they should be landing a plane or taking out my appendix!

Anyway, about three or four years ago I’m thinking about sex just fine but I’m having trouble actually having sex with my wife.  It starts to happen less and less; two times a month turns into once every couple of months, then not at all!  Things get weird at home because the wife and I become distant and disconnected for the first time in our marriage.  We avoid talking about sex, then more and more we avoid talking period. Of course I’m embarrassed and demoralized so instead of trying to connect with my wife I end up spending a lot of time playing video games when she goes to bed, and by the way, I get really good at Ghost Recon and Guitar Hero. Things get so tense around the house that we actually discuss separating for a bit.   It was then that I finally admit to myself that my erectile dysfunction is not only affecting my sex life, it’s affecting my entire life and my relationship.

I was really a mess. I was embarrassed and demoralized because there was absolutely no intimacy in my life and I felt I couldn’t discuss my erection problem with my wife. No way. And I had convinced myself that I was going to have this ED problem for the rest of my life. I’d tried various pills but I hated the way they made me feel and I was concerned about their side affects like vision and hearing loss. I mean … is it really a win if you get an erection but you can’t see it or hear your wife’s moans? And you’d be guessing it was your wife because you couldn’t see her either! I was so desperate I even ordered some herbal pills from the internet that smelled so bad they made me gag. That stuff’s not regulated so it could have been ground up monkey feet and teeth! And I was so desperate I almost took it although I’m pretty sure I would have thrown it up.

Thankfully though my wife and I didn’t end up separating because … I got some help.  That was about two years ago and I’ve been sexually active ever since — not continuously — but around two or three times a week because I found a treatment plan that actually worked. Goodbye Dysfunction!

You know how nuts I felt for having waited two years to do something about my problem?  Having sex with my wife again relieved so much stress, except for maybe some financial worries and stress with my boss, who just might be crazy.

Now that I’ve said goodbye to Erectile Dysfunction, I’m actually having sex instead of just thinking about it, and I know that’s normal.  If you have ED or can’t last long enough to satisfy your partner you should do something about it.  The way I see it, everyone is entitled to great sex or even average sex if that makes you happy.

Of course, I’m not a doctor, and anything I write here is intended for entertainment and informational purposes (I’m not giving medical advice!) and shouldn’t be used to replace the opinion of a medical professional.  My views are my own and not those of Boston Medical Group or their independent network of physicians.

I’ve started GoodByeDysfunction to tell my story and to let guys know that there’s hope for those suffering from ED.  I’m an open book. I’m not embarrassed to reveal intimate details about my life anymore so if you’d like to know even more about me — and why wouldn’t you — I hope you’ll click around my blog and stay awhile.